By: Iodelle A. Chinnery
Here are five effective ways to break that bad habit:
First, let’s take a trip back in time mentally to where that bad habit began. What brought it forth and why did it stay? Once we have gained knowledge of its origin, we have found the root and heart of the problem. To encapsulate this thought, it is of paramount importance that one fully understands what one’s mindset, feelings and focus were at the onset. Comprehension of mind set, feelings and focus enables one to take responsibility for being the gatekeeper of the thoughts, feelings and ideas that came into existence from whatever source. Furthermore, one can in turn become accountable for the decisions that were made to entertain and retain the negative thoughts and feelings which led to the bad habit’s formation. Hence, some specific factors to consider are - what was happening at the time? Who was present or not present? How did you feel about the situation(s) that was/were encountered? What did you short changed and compromised in your attitude towards situation(s)? What was your dissatisfaction? What answers, resources or solutions were you in need of, but did not receive? All these questions are important and must be answered in order to redeem self from bondage of a bad habit.
Secondly, one must also understand the negative impact and end results that a bad habit has on oneself and others. The evaluation of the impact must be noted and become a major factor for motivating and propelling such change. For one to eradicate a bad habit, it takes this kind of holistic approach and accountability to self and others.For example, an entire group of people can suffer from a bad habit immediately or over time. A bad habit depending on what it is, can be devastating to the point of putting an organization on heavy strain or completely out of business. Once understanding and clarity of perceived or conceived negative impact is attained, one can now move forward to the next step.
The next step - what are you feeding this bad habit with? Once we find the source of nourishment and sustenance, we must single them out and render each ineffective. Sources of bad habits could be, negative feelings, beliefs and thoughts, lack of knowledge, familiarity, boredom, hopelessness, divorce, sickness, stress, un-forgiveness, bitterness, anger, resentment, regrets, hurts, rejection, disappointments, misunderstandings, worries, fears, low self-esteem, illusions, and insecurities, etc. – these are just a few and are all to be discarded and replaced by the complete opposite of each. If one is to succeed at this transformation, one must pin point each nourishment of the identified bad habit and exchange each consciously with new sustenance for the newly identified good habit. It is most certain that one cannot kick a bad habit without filling its place with a good one.
Fourthly, assess the environment that is producing this food source for the bad habit. What is the composition of this environment -people, condition, things? Be specific and pin point each individually. Whatever or whomever is producing this food supply must be checked, evaluated and one needs to note why this environment is a hindrance to one’s and/or others growth and abilities –thus repetitiously fueling that bad habit.
Fifthly and in conclusion, one should re-position oneself to a newness of being. A state whereby one can establish a good habit that replaces the bad habit permanently. Also upon one replacing the bad habit with a good one, one should think again –What kind of good habit is being formed? Why is it important, relevant and capable of permanently replacing the old bad habit? What is the expected end results of this good habit? Once these questions are answered and justified, one can positively build from there on.